Is Tinder The Future of Dating?

One reader is hesitant to get on board...



©Garvin Burke

I'm 25 and single, though I would like to be in a relationship. It's getting harder and harder to meet decent guys. Most of my close friends already have someone, so I don't get to go out to the bars with a whole group of single people like I used to. Plus, I'm tired of meeting the same guy (just with a different face and name) over and over through the bar scene.

Recently, my single friends have all turned to dating apps and sites to meet people — specifically, Tinder. They all swear by it, and have been going on dates all the time. I'm not sure if I trust it. I don't want to be judged solely on the way I look, and I'm just not sure how I feel about digital dating.

Is Tinder the future of dating? Should I suck it up and get on board?

-Digital Dilemma in Darien

Dear Digital Dilemma,

First of all, let me say that I guarantee you're not alone. There are plenty of others out there who feel their dating scene needs a refresher, and as more of their friends get involved in relationships, the dating pool can seem smaller.

Try not to think of digital dating so negatively. Think of it as just another way to meet people, especially in a world that's increasingly glued to smartphones and preoccupied with time-efficiency. Meeting people "organically" is great, but it's a slower process. You can meet just as many jerks at bars as you could online — so in that department, one is not necessarily better than the other.

When it comes to Tinder, there's got to be a reason it's so popular. That being said, it definitely has a reputation for being more "casual" than sites such as Match.com. I say, go for it — if only just to see what the hype is all about. You don't have to respond to inappropriate messages or people you aren't into, but it helps to see what's out there. I know a lot of people who've met someone on Tinder, and even if it didn't evolve into a serious relationship, it's always great to meet new people (as long as you go about it safely!)

If you go into it with an open mind without expecting to find a serious relationship, it will be less frustrating.

Tinder is trendy right now, and like any other trend, something else will probably come along and replace it. In the meantime, you might as well decide for yourself if Tinder is here to stay!

-Alexa

Alexa Cortese is Associate Editor of Digital Media at Moffly Media.

She can be found in coffee shops or on Gchat dishing out relationship and life advice to all her friends. After one particularly long chat session, Alexa’s best friend said, “You should become an advice columnist.” So here she is…

A New Jersey native, Alexa now resides in Fairfield. She is in a happy, long-term relationship (it’s not complicated). Her specialty is relationship advice, but she’s willing to tackle anything. So bring it on!

*Disclaimer: Alexa Cortese is not a certified professional licensed therapist — just a girl with a dream to bring a little more love and peace into the world.

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