Dad About Town

Daddy Shifts



Kevin McKeever

Photographs: Garvin Burke

I am an anomaly. In the waiting room at the Center Stage Dance Studio on High Ridge, I’m the parent who never hides the fact that he didn’t shave his legs. At the Grade A on a late weekday morning, I’m the shopper comparing canned soups who is not yet eligible for Social Security. At parties, I’m the guy in the kitchen swapping guacamole recipes instead of fantasy football draft picks.

This is my role, my life. I am a stay-at-home dad; hear me roar about removing stubborn grass stains from my son’s baseball pants.

I chose this rarely traveled path willingly, just as I chose—after years of longing to leave—to return to my hometown of Stamford in 2004. All right, the latter decision was also made by my wife, she of the corporate executive mind-set and, thankfully, paycheck. We came back in full force, with three children—girl, boy and Labrador retriever. The party never stops at our house, and that’s why I’m there, to referee.

Only 3.4 percent of at-home parents in the United States have, like me, a mismatched set of gender chromosomes. That’s amazingly more than double the number a decade ago, though the economic damage of the mortgage and housing crisis greatly assisted our rapid growth. Yet we are Team XY—all 176,000 of us—the few, the proud, the men you never say are “babysitting” because, folks, the word is “parenting.”

While I am one who found himself on both the leading edge of the Great Recession and the New Frontier of Fatherhood, all with a single pink slip, I never saw it as a demotion. My days brim with constant challenges…and trips in the minivan to the schools, the ball fields, the doctors’ (human and canine variety), the stages, the stores. But it’s not all schlepping; it’s teaching, be it by explaining why I always refer to that building as Humphrey’s variety store even though the sign says different, or showing my daughter how to upgrade software in her iPhone.

So sure, I get a touch nostalgic about places and people gone from my childhood hometown, but I’m one who rarely refers to that time as the “good ol’ days.” The best days in Stamford are the ones in which you live in the present, fully, acknowledging the past but always looking forward to future progress. That’s how I try to raise my family. When their faces aren’t buried in their laptops, of course.

So come along for the ride as we navigate this suburb together in the months ahead. Like me, you’ll find it a little different.

Stamford Agenda

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    2014.08.11

    Registration for the 2014/15 school Our Nursery School programs are designed to help children learn in an interactive and playful way while...

  • Parties at the JCC Center

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    A place to celebrate birthdays and special occasions. Be a guest at your own party! The JCC offers a wonderful space for you and your guests to...

  • The Way We Worked

    2014.09.20

    September 20 through November 4, 9am – 5pm The Way We Worked is a fun and nostalgic look back at the history of working people in...

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    2014.09.17

    Are you ready to spend Football Sunday and Mondays with us at the Whale? Join us for $4 Bud Light Drafts, $8 Signature Bloody Mary’s and...

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    2014.09.17

    Calling all College Football fans! Watch your favorite college football team score a touchdown at Sign of the Whale. Drink specials include $4...

  • FAll 2014 Semester beginning - Ballet School of Stamford

    2014.09.15

    Our Fall semester begins on September 15th in our beautiful studios at Old Town Hall in Stamford. We offer classes for children age 3 to 18. Our...

  • Stamford Museum & Nature Center Facility Use

    2014.09.01

    September 1 – December 31, After 5pm For a truly unique and memorable venue, host your event or meeting on the picturesque 118-acre...

  • Women in Leadership, The Glass Ceiling: A Community Conversation

    2014.10.01

    How can we create more leadership opportunities for women on the job and in the community? This illuminating conversation with local experts...

  • BU8: DJ Trivia | Stamford, CT

    2014.06.05

    Come test your Wit and skills with TRIVIA. The top 3 teams claim prizes. Great specials and a great time for those who...

  • Lunch and Learn

    2014.10.02

    Thursdays, Oct. 2, Nov. 6, Dec. 4, 12 – 1 p.m. Join Or Berger, the JCC’s Israeli shaliach, for a lunch and learn series focusing...

  • Let’s Talk

    2014.09.04

    Thursdays, Sept. 4, Sept. 11, Sept. 18, Oct. 2, Oct. 23, Oct. 30, 1 – 2 p.m. Don’t miss this opportunity to meet new people or...

  • Neshama Yoga

    2014.09.12

    Fridays Sept. 12 – Dec. 19 (No class Sept. 26, Oct. 10, Oct. 17, Nov. 28), 9 – 10:30 am Neshama Yoga is a fusion of Kundalini...

  • French Market (Farmers’ Market) | Stamford, CT

    2014.06.07

    Visit our farmers’ market with vendors offering the freshest fruits, vegetables, flowers, baked goods and more! Straight from the farm...

  • French Market (Farmers’ Market)

    2014.06.14

    Visit our farmers’ market with vendors offering the freshest fruits, vegetables, flowers, baked goods and more! Straight from the farm and...

  • MarcUS for Change

    2014.10.05

    Support the Stamford Public Education Foundation's mentoring program for kids in Stamford Public Schools by running or...

  • Light & Place Opening Reception

    2014.10.05

    Light & Place Paintings by Margaret Tsirantonakis. Opening reception, Sunday, October 5 from noon to four pm. at PMW Gallery, 530...

  • Market Madness Sundays

    2014.09.07

    Sundays, September 7 – October 5, 10 am – 3:30 pm Support local farmers and explore the SM&NC through hands-on activities...

  • Scarecrow Making

    2014.10.05

    Sunday, October 5 & 12, 2 - 4 pm Join us for our 5th annual scarecrow making program and create a scarecrow for our Harvest Festival...

  • Restaurant: Family Night | Stamford, CT

    2014.06.05

    Every Sunday evening from 5:30PM - 8:30PM Bring the kids to enjoy our Magician, special kids menu, fun for the entire family!


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