Dad About Town

Daddy Shifts



Kevin McKeever

Photographs: Garvin Burke

I am an anomaly. In the waiting room at the Center Stage Dance Studio on High Ridge, I’m the parent who never hides the fact that he didn’t shave his legs. At the Grade A on a late weekday morning, I’m the shopper comparing canned soups who is not yet eligible for Social Security. At parties, I’m the guy in the kitchen swapping guacamole recipes instead of fantasy football draft picks.

This is my role, my life. I am a stay-at-home dad; hear me roar about removing stubborn grass stains from my son’s baseball pants.

I chose this rarely traveled path willingly, just as I chose—after years of longing to leave—to return to my hometown of Stamford in 2004. All right, the latter decision was also made by my wife, she of the corporate executive mind-set and, thankfully, paycheck. We came back in full force, with three children—girl, boy and Labrador retriever. The party never stops at our house, and that’s why I’m there, to referee.

Only 3.4 percent of at-home parents in the United States have, like me, a mismatched set of gender chromosomes. That’s amazingly more than double the number a decade ago, though the economic damage of the mortgage and housing crisis greatly assisted our rapid growth. Yet we are Team XY—all 176,000 of us—the few, the proud, the men you never say are “babysitting” because, folks, the word is “parenting.”

While I am one who found himself on both the leading edge of the Great Recession and the New Frontier of Fatherhood, all with a single pink slip, I never saw it as a demotion. My days brim with constant challenges…and trips in the minivan to the schools, the ball fields, the doctors’ (human and canine variety), the stages, the stores. But it’s not all schlepping; it’s teaching, be it by explaining why I always refer to that building as Humphrey’s variety store even though the sign says different, or showing my daughter how to upgrade software in her iPhone.

So sure, I get a touch nostalgic about places and people gone from my childhood hometown, but I’m one who rarely refers to that time as the “good ol’ days.” The best days in Stamford are the ones in which you live in the present, fully, acknowledging the past but always looking forward to future progress. That’s how I try to raise my family. When their faces aren’t buried in their laptops, of course.

So come along for the ride as we navigate this suburb together in the months ahead. Like me, you’ll find it a little different.

Stamford Agenda

  • The Many Faces of Multi Media

    2014.09.20

    Dr. Julia Trebing, Director Creative Therapies in Stamford, CT exhibits her paintings at Meli-Melo Creperie & Juice Bar  during Sept...

  • Juliska Annual Tent Sale!

    2014.09.15

    Juliska's annual shopping event is happening now until September 22nd, 2014 from 9am- 6pm daily. The sale will be held under a big top...

  • Monday Morning Open House

    2014.06.02

    An advanced workspace, COMRADITY is a GOOGLE-style shared workspace with blistering fast Fiber Optic internet in furnished private and open...

  • JCC Sara Walker Nursery School Registration

    2014.08.11

    Registration for the 2014/15 school Our Nursery School programs are designed to help children learn in an interactive and playful way while...

  • Parties at the JCC Center

    2014.09.02

    A place to celebrate birthdays and special occasions. Be a guest at your own party! The JCC offers a wonderful space for you and your guests to...

  • The Way We Worked

    2014.09.20

    September 20 through November 4, 9am – 5pm The Way We Worked is a fun and nostalgic look back at the history of working people in...

  • NFL Specials

    2014.09.17

    Are you ready to spend Football Sunday and Mondays with us at the Whale? Join us for $4 Bud Light Drafts, $8 Signature Bloody Mary’s and...

  • College Football Specials

    2014.09.17

    Calling all College Football fans! Watch your favorite college football team score a touchdown at Sign of the Whale. Drink specials include $4...

  • FAll 2014 Semester beginning - Ballet School of Stamford

    2014.09.15

    Our Fall semester begins on September 15th in our beautiful studios at Old Town Hall in Stamford. We offer classes for children age 3 to 18. Our...

  • Stamford Museum & Nature Center Facility Use

    2014.09.01

    September 1 – December 31, After 5pm For a truly unique and memorable venue, host your event or meeting on the picturesque 118-acre...

  • ShaNahNah with Sandi | Rosh Hashanah, Yom Kippur, Sukkot and Simchat Torah

    2014.09.23

    For children ages 6 months - 2 years and their parents or caregivers. Celebrate a whole year of holidays with the JCC Sara Walker Nursery School...

  • BU8: DJ Trivia | Stamford, CT

    2014.06.05

    Come test your Wit and skills with TRIVIA. The top 3 teams claim prizes. Great specials and a great time for those who...

  • FALL BREAK OUT DAY: Get to Work!

    2014.09.25

    No school? No problem! Join us for a day of special programs and self-guided activities for all ages. Join SM&NC Educational and Curatorial...

  • Let’s Talk

    2014.09.04

    Thursdays, Sept. 4, Sept. 11, Sept. 18, Oct. 2, Oct. 23, Oct. 30, 1 – 2 p.m. Don’t miss this opportunity to meet new people or...

  • ASTRONOMY NIGHTS: Fall Constellations

    2014.09.26

    Head to the Observatory for a real treat to explore the night sky, planets, stars, and more! Start by enjoying a presentation on the Fall...

  • Neshama Yoga

    2014.09.12

    Fridays Sept. 12 – Dec. 19 (No class Sept. 26, Oct. 10, Oct. 17, Nov. 28), 9 – 10:30 am Neshama Yoga is a fusion of Kundalini...

  • Mile of Pink

    2014.09.27

    Join Stamford Mayor David Martin and show your support for local breast cancer survivors. Gather in the Park and literally “Paint the Town...

  • Endless Summer Saturday, September 27th

    2014.09.27

    Join us for Sign of the Whale’s first end of the summer rooftop party! From 11:30am to 8pm, enjoy $4 Summer Beers, $5 Hot Dogs and...

  • French Market (Farmers’ Market)

    2014.06.14

    Visit our farmers’ market with vendors offering the freshest fruits, vegetables, flowers, baked goods and more! Straight from the farm and...

  • Market Madness Sundays

    2014.09.07

    Sundays, September 7 – October 5, 10 am – 3:30 pm Support local farmers and explore the SM&NC through hands-on activities...


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